Recently some ladies asked me my opinion on whether or not single ladies should have a “hoe phase”. At first, I was hesitant to bring this topic to the blog, but if we are gonna talk, let’s talk right?!
Instead of asking the question, is it okay to have a promiscuous or “hoe” phase, we should rather ask if we can handle it. After all whose permission are we really asking? God? Society?
In most religious schools of thought God says wait until marriage to have sex. Why is this? Honestly, I don’t think that God thinks sex is shameful or that He’s overly obsessed with our chastity. I think God just doesn’t want us to end up on Maury. He doesn’t want us to be burdened with baby daddy drama, STDs, infidelity and broken hearts. He wants us to find true love, a committed loving monogamous relationship.
Society will always have mixed views. Some of society will call a promiscuous woman a hoe, a homewrecker, an immoral woman. Some of society will call a promiscuous woman liberated. After all, why should women be extra virginal saints when men can openly chase skirts and brag about it. But we shouldn’t be promiscuous just to say “f*ck you” society and your double standards. Again, we have to ask ourselves, can we handle it?